Trained to Lead with Fear
I had a conversation with a friend who is an emergency room doctor. She told me about a system designed to heal people that is actually built on fear. Fear of lawsuits. Fear of missing something.
The Cool Air of What Seems True: A Campfire Conversation with John Biewen
John Biewen is the host of Scene on Radio, one of the most important podcast series I've encountered. Sitting across a campfire from him was surreal. He didn't let me stay comfortable.
The Probability Math of an Optimist
I emailed Matthew McConaughey. Yes, that Matthew McConaughey. And no, he hasn't responded. But the story of why I sent it is really about what happens when love overrides the fear of looking ridiculous.
The Fire of Truth
A family friend made a claim during a car ride about immigration that didn't sound right. Instead of arguing, I did what the adventure has been teaching me: check the facts before reacting.
When Love Becomes Resistance: A Campfire Conversation with Kharma Amos
Kharma Amos is a UU minister who came out in 1990s Tulsa, Oklahoma. This Campfire Conversation explored queering as a verb, the fear of freedom, and why love sometimes looks like resistance.
At the Gate: A Poem by David NeSmith
This was the first time on the adventure that I shared someone else's words instead of my own. David NeSmith wrote a poem that asks the question at the heart of this exploration: who deserves love?
What Does Right Relationship with Money Look Like? A Campfire Conversation with Tom Haslett
After weeks of researching money and capitalism, I needed to talk with someone who thinks about money for a living but doesn't think about it the way most people do.
What is Money? A Complicated Story About How Money Went from Serving Us to Running the Show
I spent weeks researching the history of money. What I found was a story about how a tool we invented to serve human connection became a system that controls human behavior.
The History of Money: The Long Story
This is the deep dive companion to my piece asking "What is Money?" It traces 5,000 years of monetary history from Mesopotamian clay tablets to modern fiat currency, with 52 citations.
The Cost of Staying Connected
Have you ever thought about what it takes to stay connected to the people closest to you? I hadn't. Not until I started exchanging messages with someone behind bars.
A Friendship That Started With a Painting
Tremayne Seymour is an artist incarcerated at Lawrenceville Correctional Center. We connected through a painting. What started as a simple exchange turned into one of the most meaningful friendships of my life.
I Went to Prison. Here’s What Happened.
A white guy from Maine gets invited to speak with 80 incarcerated men in Virginia about leading with love. What happened inside was one of the most powerful experiences of my life.
Have You Ever Been Inside a Prison?
A couple months ago I got a text from my friend Sam Harris. It was a simple yes or no question: "Have you ever been inside a prison?" I hadn't. And the fact that I hadn't felt significant.
Horses Teach You to Lead with Love: A Campfire Conversation with Chris Lombard
I'd written about Chris Lombard earlier after watching him work with Tally at the Common Ground Fair. This Campfire Conversation went deeper into what horses teach about trust and leadership.
A Love Letter to Reverie and All the Great Third Places Out There
Every Saturday morning I go to Reverie. It's a coffee shop in Brunswick, Maine. It's my anchor. But Reverie is more than a coffee shop. It's what sociologists call a third place.
Is Love a Feeling or a Way of Being?
As the year ends, I've been sitting with a question that won't let go: is love a feeling or a way of being? Four months of exploration have changed my answer.
What Men Won’t Say (Even When Asked)
I've been asking men about their emotional lives for months. They'll talk about almost anything. But ask them what they're afraid of, and the air changes. The silence isn't empty. It's full.
The Easy Path to Nowhere
I was sitting in a drive-through line and I started thinking about convenience. Not the good kind. The kind that quietly replaces the things that make us human.
Postcards and the Fear of Losing Power
I came across a collection of postcards from the early 1900s. The rhetoric on those century-old cards is almost identical to what's circulating now. Different targets. Same fear.
Why Love, Why Fear, Why Men, Why Me?
Three months into this adventure, I keep getting the same questions. Why love? Why fear? Why men specifically? And why you? Fair questions. All of them.